Tip #6: Let go of the things that weigh you down
We all have things in our lives that can weigh us down. It could be that we have too many things in our house or office or car and we need to get rid of the physical stuff that isn’t serving us. It can feel so good to drop off the car-load of stuff at Goodwill or to some other appropriate group!!
It could be our beliefs that no longer serve us. If you find yourself in a negative state of mind more often than a positive state of mind, don’t chalk it up to it being the way you are. Really take a look at your belief systems. We learn many of our beliefs at an early age from other people who had their own stuff going on. And we may not even know that we are carrying around a belief that is holding us back. Find ways to look at your beliefs and get curious about them (don’t judge them) to help you get out of negative states and into more positive states of mind more consistently.
It could be one or more relationships that no longer serve you that you need to take a good hard look at what it is costing you to stay in those relationships. A lot of times we feel like we can’t walk away, and sometimes that is true. However you always have a choice. And even if it seems scary or you fear you won’t be able to survive without that relationship, chances are you can and at some point you will have to. Be true and kind and loving and compassionate with yourself. And make the hard choices to let go of relationships that drag you down more than they lift you up and support you. Believe in your own self worth and in your own ability to grow and don’t let someone else’s stuff hold you back or make you feel badly about yourself.
It could be that your current job or career or business no longer serves you. If you find you are angry or resentful or you feel more negative than positive about your job or where you work or the work you are doing…then make a change. Your current situation is no longer serving you and your discontent is a sign that you are ready for a new adventure. It is not a sign that there is something wrong with you (as many of us fool ourselves in to believing at times).
Identify the things that cause you the greatest amount of stress – whether they are situations or specific people or your work / work environment. You have two very distinct choices that you can make to eliminate your stress.
(1) You can choose to not allow these things to cause you stress. You can let go of the thoughts or beliefs that create stress when confronted with certain people or situations. Although this may sound simplistic, check out Michael Singer’s book The Untethered Soul. It really can be this simple.
(2) Or you can let go of the situations or people who are causing you stress. And although this can seem difficult or “impossible”, it is in fact very possible.
Within a 6-month timespan I walked away from my very stressful corporate job and one of the most significant relationships in my life to date. It was really hard and it took me a little while to recover and heal from both losses. But it is possible and I am much, much, much better off for having done it. I am lighter. I am having more fun. I am less stressed out. I feel much better about myself. I have a greater sense for who I really am and the value that I offer.
If it doesn’t bring you joy and lift you up in your life, then let it go…or let go of your attachment to it… (Tweet this!)
Now I want to hear from you in the comments below this blog! What have you been holding onto that no longer serves you that you are ready to let go of?
Have a great week!