Last week I introduced this 6-week series of blog posts on How to Have More Fun In Your Business (and Life)! And today I share the second installment in this series with Tip #2!
Tip #2: Look at how you are spending your time vs. how you would love to spend your time
Now that you are clear on what you want your life to look like a year from now (and if you missed that post, check it out here), we want to look at how you are spending your time.
Step #1: Evaluate how you currently spend your time
In a typical week, what do you spend the majority of your time doing? If you don’t know, track it this week. It doesn’t have to be forensically accurate, it just needs to be directionally correct. At the end of every day before you go to bed, jot down how you spent your time that day, and how much time was spent on each activity.
After you have written them down, go back and look at each item on your list. How do you feel about each block of activity? Which ones filled you with joy or ease or happiness? Which ones were stressful? Which ones cause you great amounts of stress? Which ones do you just hate having to do?
Step #2: Declare how you would prefer to spend your time
Here, brainstorm how you would love to spend your time.
- Think about your strengths and how you can use them more often in more situations.
- Think about what brings you joy and makes you really happy
- Think about situations where you feel the most valued
- Think about what fills you up on the inside (not what you do to please other people to get them to love you)
Are you spending time doing the things that you love to do? If not, what can you change? (Tweet this!)
Step #3: Determine what you need to outsource
Now that you have an idea of how you are actually spending your time, and how you would most love to be spending your time, think about things that need to get done in your life and business that you just don’t enjoy doing.
Go back to the part where you wrote down the feeling words related to each block of current activity…especially the ones that cause you the most stress, the things you hate doing, the things you only do to please others but that take a lot out of you, the things you feel you have to do but don’t want to do much less love to do.
Those are the items that should be at the top of the list of things you should seriously consider outsourcing.
I told a story in a recent blog post about how hiring a small local yard maintenance company to maintain my yard was one of the best gifts I have ever given myself and I’m not sure why I didn’t do it years ago! What are those things for you?
It may be hiring an assistant or joining with other parents to set up a carpool to one of your child’s activities, or doing a recipe swap, or bartering some of your services for some of someone else’s services. It maybe some of the things you outsource are paid services you buy and others could be free or an exchange of time.
Step #4: Identify the things you can STOP doing
Of the things that you are doing today that do not fill you up or add real value to your life, what can you just stop doing altogether.
Maybe you are going to great lengths to do things for other people and do not feel appreciated for it. If it isn’t filling you up, just stop doing those things. Learn how to love yourself instead of looking for that love (sometimes exclusively) in other people. It will be energy much better spent.
Maybe you are doing things that other people have advised you to do, and because you view them as experts you just do them. But if they aren’t adding value or filling you up, then stop. I recently took a course on creating a successful on-line business, and there were things that were recommended (like blogging). There are people taking the course who have found they hate the entire process of blogging and ask in the forums what they should do? And whenever I see these posts, I always say something like “Stop blogging if it isn’t serving you and your business. Find another way to connect with your clients or customers. Just because this works for many people and was recommended in the training, doesn’t mean it is what you have to do.” What are these types of things in your life?
Maybe you spend a lot of time on things like TV and Social Media. I think these things are good in moderation, but how often do we get sucked in and end up wasting time that could be spent doing other things that could fill us up instead? How many of us watch the news or other stressful programming on TV which leaves us feeling fearful, sad, depressed, angry or disgusted with what other people are or are not doing? How does that really serve you and your best life? Are there other things you could spend that time doing that could make you more joyful, centered, peaceful, and successful?
Maybe you are covering up and not dealing with your feelings by eating or drinking or smoking or shopping or [insert numbing activity here]. Could you stop doing these things and instead engage in acts of extreme self care and self love? Could you exercise or meditate or paint or cook or talk to a friend or whatever helps you to center and get rid of stress and feel better again?
Despite your belief system up until now, you are in control of how you spend your time. You are making an active decision each time you engage in an activity and each time you commit to something. If the decisions you have made to this point aren’t making you happy, then make better decisions starting today! Choose to be happy. Choose to honor yourself and your time and your gifts. Choose to be joyful and fun!
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below this blog. What is one thing that you want to do more of each week, and what is one thing you can outsource or stop doing to help you free up that time?
Stay tuned for the 3rd installment of this series next week where we will talk about ways to Lighten Up!
Have a great week!